No matter how positive a person you consider yourself to be, we all have days when we need motivation. Having control over your mindset is about being able to lift ourselves and get out of those lower states. It’s not something we are naturally good at it and it can mean the difference between success and failure.
Here, I’ve put together my 7 tips on How to Change Your Mindset so you can succeed every time:
1. Crush Your Fears
Fear is part of being human. Because we are born to survive, we naturally lookout for things that are going to hurt us. We develop fears from experience, our cultural norms, or even just from things we have been told our whole lives. Some fear is good because it protects us. But some fears only stop us from being the best we can.
Fear will stop you from being your best. So if you want to move forward, you need to do the work to get on top of it. You need to be managing your fear, not the other way around. We are all familiar with being afraid of failing because we have all failed before and we don’t like it. But you need to get comfortable with failure to be able to soar. It’s only until you learn to get back up and push forward where the magic happens.
Worse than fearing failure is fearing success. The fear of succeeding is what is referred to as “imposter syndrome” – a fear of being found out because “who are you to be doing that kind of work?”
Truth is, who are you not to be doing what you love; doing what sets your soul on fire and doing what makes you a better and happier person? Working on crushing your fears will allow you to let that all go so you can make room to focus on moving forward and being a better person.
If you don’t have a clear goal or dream about the life you want to live, you need to do this right now. Write it down on real paper, with a real pen. If you’re stuck for ideas you can begin by asking yourself questions like:
- Who do I want to be?
- What do I want my life to look like?
- What do I want to do?
- How do I want to feel?
Then, the trick is to place it somewhere you will always see it and remember it. Make this the backbone of your life. If you’re not acting like you are this person in your dream already, then you’re chances of getting there are diminished. You owe yourself this respect. You are totally worthy of being and attracting the types of people and experiences in your life that will help you to get there.
Maintaining a focus on your dreams will help you get there faster. Whenever you are feeling low, focusing on your dreams is the quickest way to lift you, every time.
3. Replace Your (Hindering) Belief Systems
Your belief systems have shaped a lot of who and where you are today. So, if something isn’t working for you, you may have your beliefs to blame. We learn to believe in things from the moment we are born. We are influenced by our parents, culture, media, etc. Just because everyone else believed it, doesn’t make it true.
The good news is that we can change our belief systems. We can turn them into something that will help us. For example, when you were growing up you may have always been described as ‘shy’. It may have been the case or you may have just felt more comfortable with people you know (who doesn’t though, right?). It doesn’t mean that as an adult you are shy. I am sure you can count several times in your life where you have proven that you are not.
Believing you are shy will hold you back if what you want to achieve requires confidence and the ability to speak up.
One way to work on changing your belief about being shy would be to start using affirmations. Every time you catch yourself thinking you’re shy, tell yourself “I am confident, I speak clearly, I am worthy of being listened to and loved.” Support this by writing down a list of all the things that support your new beliefs. Write down times you have been confident – it might be when you’re in your ‘element’, talking about something you love with people you love. Whatever it is, remind yourself that you are capable of being all the things you are telling yourself.
4. Protect Your Energy
There are people, experiences and things that will always vibrate at our lower frequency level to you. So you need to have the tools in place to protect yourself from sinking to their level. Sometimes, it’s not easy just to remove yourself from these situations, especially if your “hater” is your mum. (Gary Vaynerchuk has a great video about how to tell your mum you want to live your own life.)
So, you need strategies on how to handle the negativity that you will get from the outside world. The more confident you are in your own skin and the stronger you get at being able to fight against unwanted energy, the easier you will find it to succeed.
5. Be Grateful
As with any steps to success, you always need to be grateful for what you have now, who you are and where you are at. No matter where you are on your journey, I guarantee it is better than where you were years ago. And if you can’t see that, then you need to open your eyes and your heart a lot wider because you are missing out.
You need to understand that everything up to this very moment has not been bad luck or coincidence. It is all synchronicity and happening for you – to build you up to be the best version of you. The Universe is not against you. It is supporting and guiding you every step of the way.
Count your blessings when things are going great and be even more grateful when things are going bad. Your blessings will keep your chin up.
6. Morning Mindset Routine
If you don’t have a morning routine yet, you need to work on getting one that will build your mindset. The best thing to do is to incorporate all the previous steps into your morning routine to set yourself up for a successful day every day. If you’re unfamiliar with morning routines, this Tim Ferris’ podcast episode is a great place to start.
I get that sometimes we don’t have time to fulfil an entire routine, but promise yourself to do one small thing at a minimum. Each morning I wake up smiling and it reminds me of things to smile about – even if it’s just that I woke up today in my home, in a warm bed. Most of all, smiling reminds me that I have the opportunity to live another day and to make it amazing.
7. Don’t Get Comfortable
The last tip here is to never get comfortable when it comes to working on your mindset. Remember, no matter how great things are in life, we are primally wired to think negative and to survive. The chances of you spiraling back into a negative-mindset-hole are pretty high. The best way to prepare for that is to be aware of the slumps before they arise and practising a daily high-vibe routine will help you do that.
I hope these tips give you a great start in transforming your mindset! Of course, if you would like some more help, it just so happens to be one of my favourite topics and biggest passions. I love transforming people into the magical beings I know they really are! Get in touch today and let’s chat.
In love and light